Each stage of life looks different and brings unique challenges to every couple. My hope is that you will be inspired by the stories of the women in this series. I hope that their experiences will help you find more ways to make your marriage relationship a priority throughout every stage of your own life.
Lisa and I were paired up as part of a blogger mentor program a few years ago and we've been chatting every since. When we first became friends, she was a full time working wife, without kids and now she is a full time stay at home mom with two cute little girls! I admire Tim and Lisa's commitment to their marriage. They've always attended marriage retreats and had a group of friends from their church that they meet with who are just as committed to marriage as they are. I have also appreciated her honest posts about being mother to two little ones as we've made that transition over here. I know she loves her littles and they have a lot of fun together, but she is someone you want to follow if you're looking for someone you can relate to and laugh with when it comes to the tougher parts of motherhood! I'm excited to be sharing this interview with you today!
What does it mean to you to prioritize your marriage?
It means to recognize that marriage is one of the very most important relationships in my life after my relationship with God - even above the relationships I have with my daughters! It means to keep that priority in mind even when there are so many other distractions in life, and messages in life from society that would suggest that marriage is not important.
How have the different stages you've experienced in life affected how you prioritize your relationship with each other?
Well, it's definitely harder to prioritize each other these days! We have a two year old and a 5 month old, so our daughters have a lot of needs every single minute of the day that we find ourselves attending to. Tim and I used to go on weekly date nights, even until Clara was one-year-old, but now with two kids that just doesn't happen anymore. However, we still attempt to prioritize our time together and really check-in with how we're each doing. I love having quality time together to discuss our life. I also still love doing fun things together, but now we usually do things with the kids instead of just by ourselves, which can be distracting. I can honestly say that prioritizing our relationship has gotten harder and harder as we've added more kids and moved across the country, but we continue to learn more things about each other and have definitely grown stronger as a couple while working through these challenges and life phases.
What are some rituals/traditions (big or small) that you have with your spouse?
This is one we're trying to work on because I don't think we're very good at creating traditions - we keep forgetting to do them! I especially want to create some traditions around the holidays. For instance, for the last two years I've bought the whole family matching pajamas, and I can't wait to do that agian this year! I think it's important to have some sort of routine in genearl, so that our girls can see how our family lives consistently. We really try to go to church every single Sunday, and even when the girls were born we didn't miss church for more than a week or two at a time. We also meet with our church group weekly so that we can live life alongside other couples and families in similar life stages. I think it's so important to build those meaningful connections, and I hope our girls learn that through us! Other than that, we travel and find new adventures often, so while it's not a routine, it's a way we live life that I hope is apparent to our girls.
How have the obstacles and challenges that you've faced as a couple made you a stronger team?
Oh gosh, we've had so many challenges! We met, two years later we got married, a year after that we got pregnant, then we had Clara, a year later we got pregnant again and had Isabelle... Our relationship has been a whirlwind! But, we've become a strong team because we've learned a lot about each other, we've learned to communicate better, we've learned the importance of communication and conflict resolution, and mosst importantly we've learned that we work better together than separately. There's no one I'd rather have by my side!
Tell me about something that you hope to be able to do together in the future?
I have no idea at this point! I'm very much living in the present these days. I just want to raise our kids together, show them the world, have some awesome adventures as a couple and as a family, and keep having fun along the way! I know that this stressful time is just a season and eventually we won't have babies anymore, so I want to enjoy this phase of life, but then be able to have a little more freedom later on. I can honestly say that I've done everything I've wanted to do as a person and as a couple, so right now I'm not trying to achieve anything, and instead I want to enjoy life for what it is. But I can't wait to see what the future has in store for us!