Each stage of life looks different and brings unique challenges to every couple. My hope is that you will be inspired by the stories of the women in this series. I hope that their experiences will help you find more ways to make your marriage relationship a priority throughout every stage of your own life.
I don't remember how I discovered Lauren's blog but I remember that I was instantly in love with her mission and purpose for blogging. Her blog is as inviting as her home looks and I know that it's somewhere that I can go for encouragement and uplifting posts! I have loved watching she and her husband adjust to their new stage of life as they've become a family of three. I'm so excited to share her interview with you today!
What does it mean to you to prioritize your marriage?
The biggest way we prioritize our marriage is in how we choose to spend our time. We both believe strongly that our time together is the most valuable thing we have and we try our best to limit our activities and commitments so we can be together as often as possible! Some people might thing it's boring how often we stay home, go on walks, drink coffee together, and share those daily moments, but we love that our life is slow and intentional. Now that we have a little one, this is all the more true and I'm so grateful that we say NO to all the things we could do so that we have the time to say YES to our family and our marriage. I'm a big believer that our families are the most important ministry that God gives us and the best way we can impact the world is by loving our spouses, our little ones, and the other people God puts in our lives. Mother Teresa says it so well in one of my favorite quotes: "If you want to bring happiness to the whole world, go home and love your family."
How have the different stages you've experienced in life affected how you prioritize your relationship with each other?
Even though we try to live slowly and intentionally, there have definitely been tough seasons. When we were first married, I was in graduate school and working full time and Jordan was in school and working two jobs. It was a lot tougher to find time together those days, but we tried to be home for dinner together every night, go to bed at the same time, and set aside at least one night each week for each other. It's definitely tough in those seasons but we tried to be flexible and do as much together as we could!
What are some rituals/traditions that you have with your spouse?
The only weekly tradition I can think of was spending time together on Sunday nights praying for our weeks before we go to bed. This one was tough when we had a newborn and bedtime was a much more complicated (and rare) occasion, but we still love that time together. More than "rituals" and "traditions" I would say we have a handful of things we love doing together just the two of us and now as a family. There are some more random ones like making cinnamon rolls on snowy days (the perks of us both being teachers!) or going on walks with our puppy and our little boy. We also love working on house projects together and have spent many an afternoon painting, crafting, woodworking or just dreaming and shopping for fun projects to make our house more cozy and inviting. I love how these things bring us together and give us a shared purpose!
How have the obstacles and challenges that you've faced as a couple made you a stronger team?
When we've had tough season or come up against obstacles, we try to remember that we are on the same team. We're both working toward the same goals, and even if we struggle from time to time, ultimately we are each other's #1 fan. We are learning to listen to each other's hurts and struggles without trying to fix the problem, to ask real questions and lean in when we can tell the other person is hurting, and to do everything we can to support and encourage each other. We've grown so much in the companionship part of our relationship as the years go by and I love that Jordan is my partner and my best friend in everything. The longer we're married, the more we see the intimacy in our relationship grow deeper and more complex and it is a beautiful thing!
Tell me about something that you hope to be able to do together in the future.
We are excited to grow our family and raise kids with a heart for Jesus, for community and deep relationships with people, and for a life lived slowly and intentionally. The baby stage has its joys and sweetness, but we are both so excited for when we have older kids and can go on adventures with them! We also both have a love of travel and hope to instill that in our kids. We did some traveling through Europe and the US before we had our son and hope to do a lot more of that in the future, both with kids and without!