A big thanks to Amanda from Amanda Moments for taking over the blog today in the next Perks of Being Married to My Spouse post!
My husband has always been an entertainer. He's the life of the party everywhere we go and loves to be in the limelight. He, not so surprisingly, studied communication and broadcast in college (where we met!), was a radio DJ for a while and even dabbled in stand-up comedy. But for the past several years, he's been a musician. Or, as I like to call him, a rockstar. He does have a boring day job as a business analyst, but by nights and weekends, he's rocking it on stage (well, and in their practice space) and screaming his heart out. He is the lead vocalist for a metal band and has been pretty successful for a local act!
What's great about being married to a musician you ask?
I get to be a proud wife and watch my husband be a rockstar on stage ... and I get free merch.
It gives him a creative outlet. Just like blogging fulfills me creatively, he gets to express himself through music. Having an outlet helps both of us be better people in all aspects of our lives.
He knows a ton about music and is constantly discovering new bands and songs to tell me to check out. He can also analyze songs and use fancy terms to explain what makes them good or bad. About all I can say is "It's catch!" or "This song blows." He sounds very smart when he talks about music, which is pretty sexy.
Sometimes I get in to shows for free if he is allowed a plus-one. It is really awesome to say "I'm with the band." Oh, and a few times, he's gotten to play with national acts and schmooze with the big-timers. His band has opened for Saving Abel, In This Moment and Psychostick.
He's living out his dream, and that is not something everybody is able to do. I think it will be great for him to be able to have these memories and tell our children one day that daddy was a rockstar. What a great way for him to illustrate the lesson that you can follow your dreams with some hard work and determination.
But I'd be lying if I said there were no cons to being married to a musician.
It means more time apart for us, as he has practice twice a week and often has shows--sometimes out of town--on the weekends. I go to as many shows as I am able to support him, but I do find myself wishing his hobby was less time-consuming sometimes because I can be needy and want him all for myself.
There is band drama. I'm not sure if this is just a musician thing, but I feel like his band buddies have more drama going on than any of my girlfriends. There is always something going on with someone. Thankfully, my husband is almost always the mediator and the level-headed one. He kind of fills in the dad role to the others. And that is a pro!