A big thanks to Madison from The Wetherills Say I Do for taking over the blog today in the next Perks of Being Married to My Spouse post!
A lot of people would probably think we were crazy to get married before we finished college. On the surface it may seem like being married and students would be really difficult. There are definitely some challenges, but as my husband gets ready to graduate this Saturday, I've been thinking a lot about how our marriage will shift once he's no longer a student. There are some things I have really loved about his time as a student, even after I had graduated two years ago.
If you've been married while your spouse is a student, you may have some fond late night study session memories or memories of quizzing your spouse through a stack of notecards. You might even remember sitting through their awards ceremonies or presentations. There are some definite perks to being married to a student and some memories from our time as students that I will really cherish.
When I started working full time, I definitely struggled with not having a flexible schedule. Being "chained to my desk" in a sense from 8-5 made running a lot of errands difficult. I was left with only time at night to go to the grocery store, take my car for maintenance, etc. Having a husband who was on a bit of an opposite schedule and who had flexibility in his day made those sorts of errands a lot easier! There were countless times where I had Steven take my car in for me or run to the grocery store to pick something up for dinner.
While Steven was an older student after doing 6 years of military service before going to college. he still did a traditional college route so his classes were always during the day. This made our evenings very flexible in that we were able to hang out with with friends, go see movies, or even just sit together and work on blog work and homework. Having that time available for whatever we wanted to do was such a nice change from when I was in school and working as a waitress at night.
Once I got back into the work force, it definitely became challenging to get vacation to go out of town. But what was nice is that Steven was always able to schedule around his classes to go out of town early on a Friday or even skip a class if he needed to. Having to only worry about one person's work schedule and vacation time made it a lot easier to coordinate the trips we needed or wanted to take over the last two years.
There were of course some difficulties with being married to a student, like living on a student's budget and only one income, but overall I see so many positives to starting out our marriage both as students and then with one person working and one person as a student. I definitely wouldn't change a thing!
It will definitely be a transition as Steven finds a job in the next few months and we transition into him working full time and me being the one with the more flexible schedule as I work from home. But I think the lessons we have learned over the last three years of being students will be ones that help us throughout the rest of our marriage!
Are you married to a student? What are some of the perks?