6 Tips for Supporting Your Struggling Spouse {World Mental Health Day}

Today is World Mental Health Day. I get questions often about mental health struggles and marriage. I’ve gotten these questions from the spouse struggling with their mental health, who wants to know how to best explain to their spouse what they are going through and how to help them. I’ve also gotten questions from the spouses of those who are struggling, wondering how they can best help and support the one they love. Today I want to address those questions. Whether you or your spouse has anxiety, depression, or another mental illness, this post has been written just for you.

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11 Ways to Play More in Your Marriage

When I talked about my takeaways from the event over on Instagram, I had a couple of requests for ideas for having more fun together or a blog post with ideas. Because I was working to come up with things that we could do more often to play together in our marriage as well, I thought I’d put together this post to share with all of you as well! My goal when it comes to play in my marriage is lots of smiles and laughter when we’re together just the two of us. A lot of our smiles and laughter these days come from our kids and when we share stories about the funny things are kids have done. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I want to bring even more elements of fun to our relationship.

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3 Ways to get Your Spouse to Prioritize Your Marriage Too

I get messages on a regular basis, mostly from wives, asking me how they can get their spouse on board with making their marriage a priority too. If this describes you, the first thing I would say is that I’m sorry you don’t feel valued and seen in your relationship. I hope that with these tips, you are able to see things the way your spouse does and also help them see your side of the situation. I hope that the two of you are able to communicate and find a way to make your relationship a priority in a way that meets both of your expectations. And I hope that even if your spouse isn’t on board, you continue to do what you are doing to put your marriage and your spouse first because that alone will still make a difference in your marriage.

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Why Your Marriage NEEDS Kid-Free Date Nights Outside Your Home

I’ve been talking to a lot of parents lately about date night and I’ve been surprised by how many of them have told me that date night just isn’t possible for them right now for a number of reasons. They don’t have room in their budget to hire a babysitter right now, their baby is too young to be left with someone, or they don’t trust anyone else to watch their kids. I realize that hiring a babysitter and going out for date night every single week isn’t a feasible option for every couple. And while I’m a big advocate for at home date nights when you aren’t able to get out, every couple should be finding a way to go out for date night without the kids regularly, no matter what!

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The Best LDS Conference Talks about Marriage

Every six months, our church holds General Conference. This is an opportunity for members to hear from prophets and apostles and other leaders. The messages are uplifting and inspiring and provide those in attendance with answers to questions they’ve had and guidelines for what they can work on in the coming months. Anyone is welcome to listen to these conferences, and can read them or listen to them online long after each one. Below you’ll find seven of my favorite talks from past conferences, along with a quote that explains the overview of each talk, and a link so you can read the entire thing yourself. As I was putting this post together, I couldn’t help but read through each of them again. You can bet that I’ll be reading through them on my phone and making notes for things that I want to work on again in my marriage.

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5 Traditions to Keep Your Marriage Strong After Baby

Becoming parents changes a marriage, there's no doubt about that, but your new role doesn't make your marriage any less important. You've been partners in life since you decided to get married, and the birth of a child just extends that partnership to include parenting. It's important to keep your marriage strong, not only for the health of your relationship with each other, but to help you be a strong parenting team and provide a strong foundation for your growing family.

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Why You Need to Set Workplace Boundaries to Protect Your Marriage

I’ve been having some really interesting discussions with people regarding boundaries in the workplace and what boundaries are needed to protect your marriage relationship. There are a lot of different thoughts on this topic and I’ve loved discussing them all. I’ve learned that boundaries are important to have in the workplace, whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married. And I’ve come to realize that everyone’s ideas of appropriate boundaries are very different. The one thing that’s been true across the board is that every marriage, whether it’s strong or struggling, needs boundaries to protect the people in it and the relationship.

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Tips for Making Date Night and Connecting Fun for Your Husband Too

It might surprise you to hear that one of the questions I get more than any other is, “how can I get my husband on board with date night and connecting?” Maybe it doesn’t surprise you, because maybe that’s a question that you have. I know that it’s one I still have on a regular basis. Does the word date night make your husband groan? Do you feel like you’re the one always planning date nights? Are you the one always initiating the connecting moments in your marriage? You’re not alone!

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4 Ways to Learn from Other Married Couples Around You

I am constantly looking for couples around me, to interact with and learn from! I wanted to share with you, a few ways that you can make your marriage relationship even stronger by learning from other couples around you! I hope that this post will help you recognize the good marriage habits that others have, and how you can incorporate them in your own lives.

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The importance of Relationship Education Before and During Marriage

I feel strongly about relationship education both before marriage and throughout. I wish that I’d known more about marriage education when we were engaged so that we would have been motivated to take some classes before tying the knot. Now that I do know about it, I seek opportunities to participate as often as possible.

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Staying Committed Through Hard Times in Your Marriage

When I look back on our eight years of marriage, I see lots of good times, adventures and memories. But I also see trials and struggles and rough patches. No marriage is without its struggles, whether you are going through something individually or facing a trial as a couple. When I look at those harder times in our lives, I realize that those are the things things that have brought us closer and defined us as a couple. The reason the difficult phases of our life have brought us closer is because we have been intentional with our relationship during that time and determined not to let them drive us apart.

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Connecting Through Cooking Together as a Couple

I am a huge advocate for family meal time and we have a goal to sit together around the kitchen table, out on the deck, or on a picnic blanket every night for dinner to eat with our kids. But I’m also a big fan of sharing a meal together, just the two of you, every once in a while. I know a lot of couples go out to dinner for date night once a week, but some aren’t able to go out every week and others don’t go out to eat because of budget, food sensitivities or because they choose to use their date night time participating in an activity instead of eating together.

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Places of Significance Date Night Idea for Married Couples

A few years ago, a friend of mine told me about a date she’d been on with her husband that sounded like a lot of fun! She said that for their anniversary, she and her husband had visited a variety of places that had significance in their relationship. This would make a great anniversary celebration, but I also think that it could be a fun idea to do for one of your regular, weekly date nights every once in a while.

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5 Practical and Meaningful Anniversary Traditions

It's our anniversary month so I thought I'd share some anniversary inspiration with you. We like to make our anniversary a really special occasion. Our usual date night just doesn't cut it when we're excited about heading into another year of loving each other! It’s a big celebration and we usually go all out. If you're looking for something different to do for your next anniversary, pull out one of these ideas. They’re creative and meaningful and will do a lot to set you up for a successful marriage in the years to come.

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The Beauty of Creating Date Night, In the Moment

A few years ago we realized that by making our every day routines a little extra special sometimes, we were sort of turning them into a date! For example, sitting on the couch together, drinking hot chocolate or eating ice cream and talking at the end of a long day, instead of ignoring each other and spending time on your phone turns your nightly wind down into a mini date. I call these extra special or spontaneous dates, “date moments” and I think they’re a great way to date your spouse on a daily basis or when you feel like you don’t have time to get out for a date. There’s always time for date night, you might just need to be creative with what date night looks like! If you have five minutes, you can date your spouse!

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