Step Back and Let Your Spouse Plan Something

Whether you’re struggling with letting your spouse surprise you, plan date night every once in a while or have more say in more of the business side of your marriage like having a say in the budget or doing household things their own way, this post is for you! The tips below are things that I’ve done myself and am still working on every single day. I want to stop stealing my husband’s joy in surprising me! And I know that because I have taken over planning so many things that were originally delegated to him has deflated his motivation to even try to make those plans when I agree that I’ll be hands off and let something be his responsibility. We can work on this together!

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4 Ways to Learn from Other Married Couples Around You

I am constantly looking for couples around me, to interact with and learn from! I wanted to share with you, a few ways that you can make your marriage relationship even stronger by learning from other couples around you! I hope that this post will help you recognize the good marriage habits that others have, and how you can incorporate them in your own lives.

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Why You Need to Be a Team with Your Finances, ALWAYS!

A few years ago, I had someone ask me a question about how they should handle money in their marriage an the question startled me a bit. The jist of the question was whether or not their spouse should get a certain amount of “allowance” each month when they weren’t working at all, and the spouse asking the question was the bread winner. The longer we talked, the more this conversation worried me because this couple wasn’t tackling their finances as a team and it was causing a rift.

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The importance of Relationship Education Before and During Marriage

I feel strongly about relationship education both before marriage and throughout. I wish that I’d known more about marriage education when we were engaged so that we would have been motivated to take some classes before tying the knot. Now that I do know about it, I seek opportunities to participate as often as possible.

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Staying Committed Through Hard Times in Your Marriage

When I look back on our eight years of marriage, I see lots of good times, adventures and memories. But I also see trials and struggles and rough patches. No marriage is without its struggles, whether you are going through something individually or facing a trial as a couple. When I look at those harder times in our lives, I realize that those are the things things that have brought us closer and defined us as a couple. The reason the difficult phases of our life have brought us closer is because we have been intentional with our relationship during that time and determined not to let them drive us apart.

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25+ Summer Date Night Ideas for Married Couples

Summer is our favorite time of year for date night. There’s so much to do, we get to spend a lot of time outside, and the sun and warm weather motivates and energizes us! Each year we have a list of traditional activities that we add to our date night calendar. But each summer, we try to do something new as well. This list of date night ideas includes things that can be done at home or out on the town. It has activities for outdoor lovers and for those of us who prefer to stay indoors when it gets a little too hot. You can even take a few of the ideas and turn them into multiple dates depending on how you choose to participate in the activity each time. I hope this list inspires you to make date night a priority in your marriage and spend intentional quality time together this season!

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The Beauty of Creating Date Night, In the Moment

A few years ago we realized that by making our every day routines a little extra special sometimes, we were sort of turning them into a date! For example, sitting on the couch together, drinking hot chocolate or eating ice cream and talking at the end of a long day, instead of ignoring each other and spending time on your phone turns your nightly wind down into a mini date. I call these extra special or spontaneous dates, “date moments” and I think they’re a great way to date your spouse on a daily basis or when you feel like you don’t have time to get out for a date. There’s always time for date night, you might just need to be creative with what date night looks like! If you have five minutes, you can date your spouse!

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8 Ideas for Short Date Nights Out

When we go out on a date, we're generally gone for a few hours and our date nights at home are at least two hours long. But there are some stages and situations in life when you might only have 30 minutes or less to spend together. And honestly, I think that couples would go on dates more often if they didn’t feel the need to make every one a long event. So I’m here to tell you that your date nights can be short! They can be less than an hour or even less than half an hour. In case you needed that permission, I’m giving it to you.

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6 Ways to Spice Up Date Night for Empty Nesters

The reality is, a lot of couples get caught up in life and lose their relationship in the process, very unintentionally. In every stage of life, you have responsibilities and challenges that need your attention. It happens almost naturally, that you start to function as business partners and parenting partners and put your romantic partner roles on the back burner while you work together to keep your family and your lives on track. Unless you are intentionally making each other a priority every single day, you will need to reconnect and rediscover your relationship after the kids move out and it’s just the two of you again. And then after retirement, you’ll have even more adjusting to do as you work to find a new dynamic and balance between your time together and your own hobbies and pursuits.

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Prioritize Date Night in Your Marriage with this Ebook and 300+ Date Night Ideas

After talking to many couples about their date night habits I found that the majority wish that they could increase the frequency of their dates, but don't have the resources that they need in order to do that. No matter what your stage in life, there will always be something keeping you from spending as much time together as you would like. Make time for date night in your marriage because if you don't, you will begin to drift apart and one day you might wake up to find that you are roommates rather than lovers. 

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How to Save Money on a Romantic Getaway

A year and a half ago, we were able to stay in one of the nicest rooms at our favorite B&B for less than $130, saving about 50% off the regular price. I was really proud of those savings and excited about the things I’ve learned over the years that help make our getaways more affordable. I wanted those tips to be shared in a way that they could apply to a romantic getaway anywhere so I decided to write this post. If you've ever thought, 'We can't afford to stay somewhere nice and/or romantic', this post is for you! I'm here to tell you that you can enjoy a nice night away without having to scrimp and save for years.

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8 Creative and Meaningful Bachelorette Party/Bridal Shower Gift Ideas

Wedding season is coming up and that means bridal showers and bachelorette parties are coming up too! I don’t have quite as many of those to attend now that most of my friends are married, but I still have one or two that I go to each year. When I was in the thick of attending a lot each year, I was always searching for ways to make my gifts for the occasion more meaningful. I always purchase something from the gift registry, because I know how appreciated it is, but I also like to add my own touch.

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Why You Should Continue to Purchase Lingerie in Every Stage of Marriage

If you think that owning lingerie is pointless (it’s only on for a few seconds after all, right?) or not something that you should buy until you’ve reached a certain weight loss goal or stop having kids, think again. No matter what your excuse is, I will tell you that you should buy lingerie that fits you and that you love in your current stage of life. The biggest reason people tell me they don’t buy new lingerie is that they don’t feel like they’d get much use out of it. The joke is that ‘it’s only on for 15 seconds anyway!’ I’ve seen a few people’s eyes pop out of their heads when they find out how many pieces of lingerie I’ve purchased in so short a time frame. And then they ask me if I wear it that often. I wanted to share a few ways you can get more wear out of your lingerie purchase. Lingerie doesn’t have to be just for the bedroom! Look for opportunities to wear it on a more regular basis not only for your spouse, but for yourself.

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14 Random Acts of Kindness to do for Your Spouse

When was the last time that you did something spontaneous, random and kind for your spouse? I’m talking about random acts of kindness of course! Acts of service is my love language, so RAOK are something that I love doing frequently. I’m always looking for ways that I can help my husband out with something that he needs to have done or surprise him in some way. Random acts of kindness can be done anonymously or you can let the person know that it was you who served them. I know a lot of couples have traditions of serving each other a little more than normal around holidays or birthdays or when their spouse is really busy but you don’t need an excuse to do these RAOK!

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Spring Date Night Ideas for Married Couples

When it comes to date night, you won’t find us doing the same thing each week. We love the classic dinner and a movie date, but we also love to experience new things together and date night is the perfect opportunity for a little adventure. We love to try new restaurants, check out different places made for fun in the area and enjoy the seasonal activities that are available where we live. I look forward to spring every year because our date night activity bank expands to include some things that are outdoors. I also find that it’s more fun to go out together when it’s not frigid and snowing and the ground isn’t constantly wet.

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