The past two and a half weeks have been filled with lots of snuggles for our sick and teething baby, work, class, and a lot of homework. I feel like I've been running myself ragged and I've had to put a lot of things on the back burner, this space included. Date night plans have been cancelled, the baby has ended up in our bed so that we could comfort him and still get a decent night's sleep and when we haven't been taken care of Bensen or our work and school responsibilities, all we've wanted to do is sleep. My marriage hasn't been my very top priority for the past couple of weeks, but like Kaitlyn said in her Wives to Watch in Every Stage of Life interview, we have to consider the needs of the institution first. Bensen has needed a lot of extra love and attention, we have to work in order to provide for our family and my homework has deadlines that can't be missed if I want to get good grades and graduate.
Life can be overwhelming at times, no matter what your every day schedule looks like. There are simple things that you can do every day to make your marriage a priority. You don't need a lot of time to let your spouse know that they are important to you, no matter what you have going. The following list contains things that you can do every single day, no matter what you have going on or how little free time you feel like you have. When you have to put other things in your life first, don't let your marriage get buried.
I like to think that you should kiss your spouse at least six times during the day. A kiss good morning and a kiss goodnight, a kiss goodbye when you separate for the day and a kiss hello when you see each other again, one kiss for no reason at all, and another kiss that lasts at least 10 seconds. But don't just limit yourself to six, look for any excuse to kiss your spouse!
The other day I was thinking about the way that we used to cuddle with each other always when we were dating. We would sit down on the couch, Joe would pull me into a big bear hug and we would watch a movie, sit and chat or I would attempt to do homework.
Create a Daily Ritual
You can have one little ritual or a few different ones. Joe and I used to have a ritual of taking a late night walk together every day, but life, our schedules and the baby's bedtime don't allow for that as often anymore. Maybe you read a chapter from a book together every night or enjoy a bowl of ice cream right before bed. Find something that you can do together and enjoy that time, just the two of you.
Schedule Date Night
After the last two weeks, the one thing that I really looked forward to was our date night this last weekend. Bensen joined us and we had a lot of fun laughing and enjoying our time together as a family. When life gets crazy, and even when it's not, plan a date night so that you have something to look forward to! Our date nights in for the last couple of weeks have taken place at home while Bensen is napping or after he goes to sleep. A family date night felt so great, but I'm really looking forward to our next baby free date night away from home!
This past week, I've had something going every single night but this next week is spring break and I'm looking forward to spending more time with my favorite boys (hopefully...). And on the days when we don't have the time or the energy to have a great conversation or do something fun together, I remember that sometimes the simple things make a big difference!
What do you do to make time for your marriage every day?