A few weeks ago, I was listening to Josh Groban's 'In Her Eyes' on one of my morning commutes and it had me thinking. The same song rotated through my CD's again yesterday (I get bored of the radio not playing anything I like) and I was thinking again. I thought back on some of the moments from our weekend and wondered how I could make my husband feel like more of a hero. I realized that I may be diminishing his worth a bit or making him feel like less of a help in my life just by the things that I'm choosing to focus on, whether I voice them out loud to him or not.
Listen to the lyrics of 'In Her Eyes', and think about your own marriage. Do you build your husband up and help him see everything that he is capable of? Do you show him all of his strengths and how his weaknesses can be strengths as well? In your eyes, is he a hero? When he is with you, does he feel like he can do anything?
When we're in the dating phase of life, they say that we see each other through "rose colored glasses" and that at some point those have to come off and you start to see each other for who you really are. I've never liked this sentiment because I feel like that encourages us to start seeing the not so perfect parts of our relationship and our spouse as negatives instead of opportunities to grow or something that we can compliment with our own strengths and make better. I'm not saying that you should be naive and only see the good, ignoring all of the obstacles and challenges that your different personalities bring to a relationship. I'm saying that we can choose to celebrate all of each other's best qualities while embracing our differences and viewing our spouse's not so perfect parts as challenges that can give us a chance to grow and make us a better team!
Our husbands are human, they aren't perfect and they make mistakes like everyone else. We have the power to make them feel extraordinary, like the most amazing man in the world. I shared a quote on Instagram yesterday that I think fits this post perfectly. "There is no such thing as a perfect man or a perfect marriage, but the one I have is perfect for me." Start thinking about all of the reasons that your husband and your marriage are the perfect fit for you. Help your husband see the amazing things that he brings to your relationship and how perfect he is for you. Make him want to be around you all the time not only because he enjoys your company but because of how he feels about himself when he is with you.