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We went on a long drive this weekend, so I took our copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met with us so that we could make the most of our time together. When I asked Joe the question, 'what activities did we do together, before we got married, that you would like to do again?', he almost immediately responded, 'homework and tv'. I laughed, but the truth is, a lot of what we do together involves me doing homework and binge watching our current Netflix favorite.
When we were dating, we'd always go on a late night walk or sit on the couch and talk after I finished studying. Now, Joe usually falls asleep in the middle of our show and I'm up for an hour or two more finishing up my assignments. This semester especially, with class three nights a week and our opposite work schedules, we don't have as much time or energy as we used to, so we don't connect as often as we should.
I love Connect Like You Did, because it encourages us to talk beyond how each other's day went or the state of things that have been going on in our lives. Tony and Alisa have even included some great tips for making the book work more effectively in your relationship! One of those tips is to schedule time to talk. This is always the hardest thing for us to do so I've decided that discussing our answers to a question every week as part of our family meeting could be fun! I also like to bring it with us on long car rides or when we're driving somewhere for date night. Joe's only rules for the discussion are that we both have to answer whatever question is picked. It's made me think twice before I pick a question for him so that I don't get stuck with something that I don't have an answer for.
In a few months, school will be over and for the first time in our marriage, homework and Netflix won't be our go to activity every night. I'm looking forward to creating a daily ritual surrounding daily conversation and Connect Like You Did. There are questions for every thing you might want to discuss with your spouse. Your relationship, religion, money, sex, kids, date night, extended family, etc. You name it, it's in there, along with over 50 miscellaneous questions at the end. We've created a lot of memories as we've made our way through the book and I'm looking forward to making many more!