6 Tips for Supporting Your Struggling Spouse {World Mental Health Day}

Today is World Mental Health Day. I get questions often about mental health struggles and marriage. I’ve gotten these questions from the spouse struggling with their mental health, who wants to know how to best explain to their spouse what they are going through and how to help them. I’ve also gotten questions from the spouses of those who are struggling, wondering how they can best help and support the one they love. Today I want to address those questions. Whether you or your spouse has anxiety, depression, or another mental illness, this post has been written just for you.

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How a Change in Attitude can Improve Your Marriage

If I could give you three suggestions to change your attitude and outlook on life, they would be the ones listed below. I don’t think that you should use these to overlook really issues with your relationship or your mental health. And I will be honest, this doesn’t make life perfect, but these have definitely helped me to be more positive and move forward with a happier attitude when I’m faced with a challenge or struggling with my mental health.

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8 Easy Ways to Flirt with Your Spouse

In the spirit of having more fun in your marriage, how long has it been since you flirted with your spouse? We tend to get caught up in discussing the important things in life, and some of the stressful things that life brings our way. I use to be the queen of flirting, and I loved flirting with Joe all day every day when we were dating, even if it was through text. I still flirt with my husband, just not as much as I used to and probably not as often as I should. I’ve started flirting with him more, and having more fun, and I feel like we’re more connected because of it. It’s not deep conversation or a date night, but it brings us back to the base of our relationship and reminds me why I fell in love with my husband in the first place.

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11 Ways to Play More in Your Marriage

When I talked about my takeaways from the event over on Instagram, I had a couple of requests for ideas for having more fun together or a blog post with ideas. Because I was working to come up with things that we could do more often to play together in our marriage as well, I thought I’d put together this post to share with all of you as well! My goal when it comes to play in my marriage is lots of smiles and laughter when we’re together just the two of us. A lot of our smiles and laughter these days come from our kids and when we share stories about the funny things are kids have done. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I want to bring even more elements of fun to our relationship.

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3 Ways to get Your Spouse to Prioritize Your Marriage Too

I get messages on a regular basis, mostly from wives, asking me how they can get their spouse on board with making their marriage a priority too. If this describes you, the first thing I would say is that I’m sorry you don’t feel valued and seen in your relationship. I hope that with these tips, you are able to see things the way your spouse does and also help them see your side of the situation. I hope that the two of you are able to communicate and find a way to make your relationship a priority in a way that meets both of your expectations. And I hope that even if your spouse isn’t on board, you continue to do what you are doing to put your marriage and your spouse first because that alone will still make a difference in your marriage.

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Why Your Marriage NEEDS Kid-Free Date Nights Outside Your Home

I’ve been talking to a lot of parents lately about date night and I’ve been surprised by how many of them have told me that date night just isn’t possible for them right now for a number of reasons. They don’t have room in their budget to hire a babysitter right now, their baby is too young to be left with someone, or they don’t trust anyone else to watch their kids. I realize that hiring a babysitter and going out for date night every single week isn’t a feasible option for every couple. And while I’m a big advocate for at home date nights when you aren’t able to get out, every couple should be finding a way to go out for date night without the kids regularly, no matter what!

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The Best LDS Conference Talks about Marriage

Every six months, our church holds General Conference. This is an opportunity for members to hear from prophets and apostles and other leaders. The messages are uplifting and inspiring and provide those in attendance with answers to questions they’ve had and guidelines for what they can work on in the coming months. Anyone is welcome to listen to these conferences, and can read them or listen to them online long after each one. Below you’ll find seven of my favorite talks from past conferences, along with a quote that explains the overview of each talk, and a link so you can read the entire thing yourself. As I was putting this post together, I couldn’t help but read through each of them again. You can bet that I’ll be reading through them on my phone and making notes for things that I want to work on again in my marriage.

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Tips for Making the Most of Family Mealtime

Take advantage of Family Mealtime Month, like we are, and recommit to sitting down at the kitchen table with the ones that you love most! I look forward to the meals I share with my family. Whether it’s lunch with the kids before school, dinner after Joe gets home from work, or even Sunday dinner at my mom’s house. Memories are made and bonds are strengthened, and it all revolves around something that everyone loves, food!

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Why You Need to Set Workplace Boundaries to Protect Your Marriage

I’ve been having some really interesting discussions with people regarding boundaries in the workplace and what boundaries are needed to protect your marriage relationship. There are a lot of different thoughts on this topic and I’ve loved discussing them all. I’ve learned that boundaries are important to have in the workplace, whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married. And I’ve come to realize that everyone’s ideas of appropriate boundaries are very different. The one thing that’s been true across the board is that every marriage, whether it’s strong or struggling, needs boundaries to protect the people in it and the relationship.

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Tips for Making Date Night and Connecting Fun for Your Husband Too

It might surprise you to hear that one of the questions I get more than any other is, “how can I get my husband on board with date night and connecting?” Maybe it doesn’t surprise you, because maybe that’s a question that you have. I know that it’s one I still have on a regular basis. Does the word date night make your husband groan? Do you feel like you’re the one always planning date nights? Are you the one always initiating the connecting moments in your marriage? You’re not alone!

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How to Support a Spouse with Dietary Restrictions

I know so many people with spouse’s who have a dietary restrictions. Whether those restrictions are due to an illness, food allergy, or even just personal preference, it’s so important to be supportive of your spouse! Don’t just stand by and let them figure things out on their own, be by their side through all of it. You don’t have to necessarily take on the same restrictions as a way of supporting them, although some might choose to do that. I hope that these suggestions will help you and your family navigate those restrictions and show your spouse that they are a priority to you and that you’re there for them, no matter what they’re going through!

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Step Back and Let Your Spouse Plan Something

Whether you’re struggling with letting your spouse surprise you, plan date night every once in a while or have more say in more of the business side of your marriage like having a say in the budget or doing household things their own way, this post is for you! The tips below are things that I’ve done myself and am still working on every single day. I want to stop stealing my husband’s joy in surprising me! And I know that because I have taken over planning so many things that were originally delegated to him has deflated his motivation to even try to make those plans when I agree that I’ll be hands off and let something be his responsibility. We can work on this together!

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4 Ways to Learn from Other Married Couples Around You

I am constantly looking for couples around me, to interact with and learn from! I wanted to share with you, a few ways that you can make your marriage relationship even stronger by learning from other couples around you! I hope that this post will help you recognize the good marriage habits that others have, and how you can incorporate them in your own lives.

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6 Tips to Make Family Pictures Less Painful for Your Husband

Any time I mention family pictures, or taking pictures for the blog, my husband moans and groans. I know a lot of husband’s are the same way, and even some wives. With family picture season coming up and everyone getting ready to take their annual photos for Christmas cards, I want to help you (and your husband) out! Even though I don’t understand the pain that my husband experiences when taking pictures, I want to do everything I can to make him feel more comfortable for family pictures when I insist on having them done annually. This year, and every year for the rest of your lives together, I hope that pictures are less stressful and more enjoyable for the entire family!

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Why You Need to Be a Team with Your Finances, ALWAYS!

A few years ago, I had someone ask me a question about how they should handle money in their marriage an the question startled me a bit. The jist of the question was whether or not their spouse should get a certain amount of “allowance” each month when they weren’t working at all, and the spouse asking the question was the bread winner. The longer we talked, the more this conversation worried me because this couple wasn’t tackling their finances as a team and it was causing a rift.

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