Marriage Advice for Newlyweds - Six Ways to Create a Long Lasting Marriage

I’ve heard something about marriage recently that I've had a hard time grasping. I guess there are people who go into marriage with the plan that it will be their "first" or not last forever. To me, marriage is a lifelong commitment and I do everything in my power to make it last that long. I understand that things have to end in some situations, but I can't imagine going into such a serious union planning for it to end. Creating a marriage that will last a lifetime takes effort, it won't happen just because you're hoping for it.

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Five Conversations to Have Before You Get Married

When we were preparing to get married, we talked about a lot of things. Our lives were busy with work, school, and wedding plans. Most of what we talked about was related to the wedding or our lives together immediately afterward. We had conversations about some far future topics, but there are a lot of things that we've talked about since or situations that we've gone through together that I wish were part of our discussions before we were in the moment and before we got married. As I've watched other couples around me get married, I can't help but think about these topics even more, so I decided to put together this post as a point of reference for engaged couples.

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How to Support Your Spouse While They're in School

A lot of people are talking about back to school right now and back to school preparations seem to be the focus of every store in the area. College students are going back to school in September as well and married college students are cramming in a lot of quality time before homework takes over their evenings. If you our your spouse will be heading back to college this coming semester, this post is for you. Seven tips for supporting your spouse through school, and I’m not talking about working to pay for tuition. These tips will help you be there for your spouse mentally, emotionally and physically as they work to finish their degree.

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The Man I Didn't Even Know I Needed

In the seven years that I've been married to Joe, I've realized that there are things that I needed in a husband and didn't even know I needed. Joe is the perfect man for me. I fell in love with him for who he is and I fall more in love with him every year that we are married. He's the perfect match for me on every level. Whether we're out on a date laughing together or working our way through one of our trials in life, he compliments me and helps make us the good team that we are.

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Are You Investing in Your Marriage?

When you plan for your future, you decide the age that you want to retire, what type of lifestyle you want to live after retirement, and how much money you'll need to live that way. From there you decide how much money you need to be investing now in order to reach your goal. The sooner you start investing for your future, the better off you will be when you get to that point. When I think about marriage as an investment, I view it in a similar way. I envision what I want my marriage to look like years from now and determine what I need to be doing every day to make sure that happens

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Six Apps Every Couple Should Have on Their Phone

Smartphones have been getting beat up a bit recently in our world, and for good reason. I agree with all of the reasons that people are turning away from their smartphones and have been trying to limit the time I spend on my phone recently as well. Modern technology has made a lot of things in life more convenient and it has brought a lot of good to the world. But with that good comes a lot of issues as well. I wanted to share a few of my favorite apps that you can use to strengthen your marriage and that will do a lot of good for your relationship if you choose to use them!

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8 Things to do for Yourself and Your Marriage When It Feels Like Your Spouse is Never Home

Every stage of life is different and I hope that this one is brief for your marriage. Whether it's short term or a new way of life that might last a few years, you can decide to make the best of it. Adjusting your traditions and the things that you're used to to fit your new normal will make things better. When you feel like life is so busy that you don't have time for your marriage or yourself, that's usually when you need to make those things a priority more than ever. Whatever you do, find what works for your family and make the most of it!

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Why Your Kids Need You to Prioritize Your Marriage

Whenever I talk to people about my passion for putting marriage first, the most push back I get comes from parents of young kids. I can't tell you how many times I have heard something along the lines of, "I can't make my spouse my top priority or even a priority because I have young kids and they need me." To any of you who feel that way when you read my posts or the mission behind my writing I want to say, I completely understand where you are coming from! I have young kids and I know just how easy it can be and how important it can feel to focus all of your time and energy on them each day.

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How Having a Set Bedtime Could Benefit Your Marriage

First question, do you and your spouse go to bed at the same time? Second question, do you have a set bedtime? And last question, would you like to know how you can use bedtime to connect with your spouse and strengthen your marriage? Research has shown that 75% of couples are not going to bed at the same time. Maybe you're one of those couples, but why should you care?

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3 Tips to Help You Date Your Spouse Daily

Last weekend at The Wives Workshop, I presented on the topic of continuing to date each other after you get married. It's been on my mind ever since, so I thought I'd carry that over into a post today. I've picked my three favorite tips from the night and adjusted them a bit based on a couple of things that I learned from the other presenters and thoughts that I've had since.

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Dear Newlyweds; 5 Truths About Marriage

Dear Newlyweds, Congratulations on your recent marriage, I sincerely wish you all the best! As you begin your new life together, there are a few things that I thought you should know. I'm sure you received A LOT of advice on your wedding day. And I'm sure by now you've realized that some of that advice is really helpful and some is not actually realistic. 

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Living My Wedding Vows in the Everyday

Our vows:

Will you give yourself to your spouse to be her spouse: to love, comfort, honour and protect, and forsaking all others, to be faithful so long as you both shall live? I take you to be my spouse, to have and to hold, from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for the rest of our lives. This is my solemn vow.

Even after being together for 13 years, exchanging our vows in front of our favourite people changed something in our relationship for the better.

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Why You Might Want to Text Your Spouse More Often

I made it a goal this year to send Joe more messages that were fun and nonsensical rather than things like, 'Can you pick up milk on your way home?' or 'Guess who is boycotting nap time again'. I like to share snippets of our day with him, funny little things that Bensen says or a cute picture of the fun thing we are up to. I also like to let him know that I miss him and can't wait for him to get home, not just because 'the toddler won't nap and I really need you to come home and spell me off before I go insane!!' but because like back when we were dating, I enjoy his company and look forward to spending time together at the end of each day.

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Why Your Spouse Needs at Least 8 Touches a Day

As a mom, I can tell you that I definitely reach my quota for 10 touches, usually before 10 am every day. Between the baby, the toddler and the dog, I'm being loved on and grabbed at constantly, even during nap time because the dog cuddles with me while we nap. So I understand that at the end of the day, some of you might be touched out and looking forward to taking back your personal space after the kids are asleep.

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6 Things That Newlyweds Should Do to Strengthen Their Marriage

Being a newlywed is exciting. The memory of your wedding is still fresh in your mind, you've most likely just got back from honeymoon, and your married life stretches out ahead of you.

While you can definitely coast on the joy and fun of your wedding for a while, the newlywed period is also prime time for strengthening your marriage. If you get into good habits now, your marriage will start off on the right foot and you'll be building in strength from day one. If you're a newlywed, here are some ideas to keep your marriage strong.

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