How to Save Money on a Romantic Getaway

A year and a half ago, we were able to stay in one of the nicest rooms at our favorite B&B for less than $130, saving about 50% off the regular price. I was really proud of those savings and excited about the things I’ve learned over the years that help make our getaways more affordable. I wanted those tips to be shared in a way that they could apply to a romantic getaway anywhere so I decided to write this post. If you've ever thought, 'We can't afford to stay somewhere nice and/or romantic', this post is for you! I'm here to tell you that you can enjoy a nice night away without having to scrimp and save for years.

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Why You Should Continue to Purchase Lingerie in Every Stage of Marriage

If you think that owning lingerie is pointless (it’s only on for a few seconds after all, right?) or not something that you should buy until you’ve reached a certain weight loss goal or stop having kids, think again. No matter what your excuse is, I will tell you that you should buy lingerie that fits you and that you love in your current stage of life. The biggest reason people tell me they don’t buy new lingerie is that they don’t feel like they’d get much use out of it. The joke is that ‘it’s only on for 15 seconds anyway!’ I’ve seen a few people’s eyes pop out of their heads when they find out how many pieces of lingerie I’ve purchased in so short a time frame. And then they ask me if I wear it that often. I wanted to share a few ways you can get more wear out of your lingerie purchase. Lingerie doesn’t have to be just for the bedroom! Look for opportunities to wear it on a more regular basis not only for your spouse, but for yourself.

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14 Random Acts of Kindness to do for Your Spouse

When was the last time that you did something spontaneous, random and kind for your spouse? I’m talking about random acts of kindness of course! Acts of service is my love language, so RAOK are something that I love doing frequently. I’m always looking for ways that I can help my husband out with something that he needs to have done or surprise him in some way. Random acts of kindness can be done anonymously or you can let the person know that it was you who served them. I know a lot of couples have traditions of serving each other a little more than normal around holidays or birthdays or when their spouse is really busy but you don’t need an excuse to do these RAOK!

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Should You Take Your Disagreement to Social Media?

Have you ever been scrolling through social media and found yourself cringing at something that someone has chosen to share so publicly? I’m not talking about a controversial political post or some TMI story about their health or something disgusting a child has done. The type of posts I’m thinking of are those that share an argument or frustration that the poster has with their significant other. I most often see these in private social media groups but I’ve also seen them as a post in someone’s regular social media feed.

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Perfect Wife Perception

Four years of marriage me sometimes feels like a failure compared to first year of marriage me. I rarely if ever spend more than half an hour preparing dinner, the house always seems to have some sort of mess to clean up or project to be done and some weeks, even if I've planned something fun and exciting, we end up getting take out and watching something on Netflix for date night. When I think about how dedicated I was to my "wifely duties" in year one, I'm motivated to be better, but I also try to remind myself that those aren't the things that determine my worth as a wife. I've realized that there's more to being a good wife than cooking, cleaning and date night.

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Four Simple Ways to Connect with Your Spouse on a Daily Basis

One of the biggest things that I like to stress when I talk about making your marriage a priority is that it isn’t about lots of grand gestures, it’s about intentionally connecting with each other on a daily basis. It’s those little efforts that will build up to make a big difference in the health of your marriage. You can easily do something every day to show your spouse that you see them and that they are important to you.

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It Just Keeps Getting Better - 3 Tips for Enjoying Every Stage of Your Marriage

The chorus to a popular song say, “I wish somebody would have told me…that some day, these will be the good old days. All the love you won’t forget and all these reckless nights you won’t regret….You’ll miss the magic of the good old days.” Or as Andy Bernard says, “I wish there was a way to know you're in "the good old days", before you've actually left them.” These are the times you’ll look back on and remember fondly if you enjoyed them fully or with regret if you didn’t make the most of them. I'm hoping that these three tips will help you find more joy in the current stage of your journey through life together!

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My Favorite Marriage Podcasts

I get asked about my favorite marriage podcasts a lot, but until this past year I was only listening to one. I’d never taken the time to research what apps were good for listening to podcasts on an Android phone and I had a lot on my plate for quite a while and not a lot of time to listen to them. This past year I discovered the app Castbox, which I use to listen to all of my podcasts and have loved, so if you have an Android phone, check it out! I also started listening to podcasts all the time; while I clean my house, while I get ready in the morning and late at night when I’m doing my grocery shopping are my favorite times to catch up on podcasts.

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14 Ways to Show Love to Your Spouse All Year Long

There are a lot of people who aren’t fond of Valentine’s Day because they feel that you should show love for your significant other, family and friends all year round, not just one day. I will continue to love Valentine’s Day because I love holidays and I love the opportunity to be a little more intentional in the way that I love those around me. But I’m with all of you who feel that your spouse deserves to feel loved and know that you love them all year long. So in honor of Valentine’s Day, here is a list of fourteen different things you can do to make show you love your spouse no matter what day it is!

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Use Your Spouse's Love Language to Pick Out the Perfect Gift

Do you ever feel like your spouse or other loved ones in your life are the most difficult to people to purchase gifts for?  I used to listen carefully all year long and make a note any time Joe mentioned anything that he wanted. I even have a secret Pinterest board filled with ideas he’s given me or things that I’ve seen online and think he’d love. Sometimes I'd get him a gift that I thought he'd enjoy only to be disappointed that he wasn't as excited by it as I thought he would be. I don't remember when it happened, but one day I started thinking about gifts that I could give based on his love languages and ever since, I've never lacked for ideas.

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Take the Love Languages Challenge for Your Marriage

I truly believe that The 5 Love Languages can be an amazing tool in your marriage, if you are using them to the fullest. My hope in creating this e-mail challenge is to help couples take their knowledge of each other’s love languages and use that to make their marriage relationship even better! I wanted this to be a challenge that would be beneficial to those people who have never heard of The 5 Love Languages before, as well as those people who feel like they know a lot about the love languages already. No matter where you are on the spectrum, I promise that you will learn something from taking this challenge!

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Do You Save Some of Yourself for Your Spouse Each Day?

I try my hardest to do at least one thing every day to make my marriage a priority. Sometimes that’s texts throughout the day letting my husband know I love him, other days that’s packing his lunch and surprising him with a drink or a treat during a crazy work day, but I like the most to spend quality time with him at the end of the day. If I’ve spent my entire day teaching or used up all my energy deep cleaning our house, or even given my all to our two toddlers, I have none of myself left to give to my husband. On those days when I’ve overdone it, the kids go to bed and my brain goes off duty. I fall asleep the minute my head hits the pillow, I don’t have the brainpower left to connect and my husband is left feeling like the lowest priority on my to do list.

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Three Ways to Make Your Marriage a Priority During the Holiday Season

We’re heading into the busiest time of the year and I’m already thinking about how I’m going to make sure Joe and I are making each other a priority daily. Last year during the holidays season, our schedules got consumed with family parties, work events, church activities and Joe’s heavy load at work. I know that we aren’t the only ones who struggle to find time to connect with each other during the hustle and bustle of the holiday. These are the things that we are planning to do over the next month to ensure that we are making time for each other and that we keep our marriage strong as we head into the new year.

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Dividing Your Time with Both of Your Families During the Holidays and All Year Long

“How do you divide your time between the two of your families for the holidays?” It's one of the questions I get asked the most this time of year and one of the things that I think married couples worry about the most. Deciding how to spend your time for the holidays, which family traditions to participate, and making sure that you get quality time with each of your families while leaving room in the schedule for quiet nights at home and your own traditions can be a challenge.

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Six Ways to Serve Your Spouse When They Are Sick

For the last two years, my husband and at least one of our kids has gotten the a severe cold and/or the flu, despite our best efforts to keep our home germ free and everyone healthy. My husband seems to get hit the hardest each year and the poor guy was even sick on his birthday. Each time he'd get sick, he'd live on the couch downstairs so we could quarantine him from the kids and they could continue to live as normally as possible while avoiding his germs.

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