Preparing for Marriage
Whether you're single and preparing for a future relationship, dating someone and starting to think about marriage, or engaged and planning for the future together, you can choose to change the future of your marriage relationship now. It's never too early to start preparing and making decisions about the kind of marriage that you want to have in the future. There is no time like the present to create great habits that will carry over into your future marriage.
"Although we’re not guided by religion in our marriage, we’re still 100% committed to making our marriage awesome because 75 years with each other is a LONG time and we want to make the best of our time together. We value what each other brings to our relationship and what it will bring to our future. We work on our marriage daily because our vows mean something.
Now days I'm pretty sure that I don't even hit close to as many texts each month as he and I were sending back then and not every message that I send is to him. I've been thinking a lot lately about how much we used to text and how every time his name would pop up on my screen while we were apart, I'd get an instant smile on my face. Our daily routines and our job responsibilities are a little different now than they were then, so we don't have as much time to text anyway, but I can't help but try to remember what we talked about all day long while we were dating.
Make physical intimacy a priority in your marriage and remember that it doesn't always have to be as involved as it sounds. Taking that time to love each other will strengthen your relationship and help you remember your role in each other's lives as husband and wife when you may be knee deep in parenting or other life responsibilities.
Last Valentines day, I overheard a few coworkers expressing their dislike of the holiday. They felt that it was a day that is commercialized and just to get spouses to buy gifts for each other. I've heard other people suggest that they don't need a special day to let their husband/wife know that they love them. My personal opinion is that Valentines day is an opportunity to shower your lover with extra attention and that if you put some thought into your gift, it can be meaningful and memorable rather than just out of obligation.
Being a newlywed is exciting. The memory of your wedding is still fresh in your mind, you've most likely just got back from honeymoon, and your married life stretches out ahead of you. While you can definitely coast on the joy and fun of your wedding for a while, the newlywed period is also prime time for strengthening your marriage. If you get into good habits now, your marriage will start off on the right foot and you'll be building in strength from day one. If you're a newlywed, here are some ideas to keep your marriage strong.
Whether you are setting goals for your own personal growth, goals to strengthen your marriage, or goals as a couple to help you get further ahead in life, you can work together as a team to accomplish them. Make your spouse's goals your own and help them succeed in any way possible. You're on this journey through life together and your individual successes are just as much of a success for your partner as the things that you set out to accomplish together.