No matter how long a couple has been married, there will always be something for them to learn. What better place to learn about love and life than in marriage, a secure relationship with your best friend?
I've heard from many couples that their current circumstances make it difficult to find time for a weekly or even monthly date night together. In my research while I was writing my date night book, I found that couples of every stage benefited from regular quality time and monthly date nights. So, just for you, the couple with the busy schedule, I have three tips that have helped us and that I know will help you to make date night happen more on a more regular basis in your marriage.
"Although we’re not guided by religion in our marriage, we’re still 100% committed to making our marriage awesome because 75 years with each other is a LONG time and we want to make the best of our time together. We value what each other brings to our relationship and what it will bring to our future. We work on our marriage daily because our vows mean something.
I believe that a marriage is meant to last forever. I also believe that it's very possible to achieve that. And I believe that staying married is almost always the correct decision. I don't think these beliefs are very popular in our society these days.Every marriage is different and if you just spend a little time and effort, yours can endure anything life throws your way!
...Most of all, I miss how that crisis made it so easy to set aside everything to make room for the things that really mattered. Everything that we did revolved around caring for both of our little ones and keeping our relationship with each other strong. Our priorities were clear and nobody questioned the decisions that we made because of those priorities.
Chelsea and Ryan Avery are a couple that I have admired for quite a while now. Last year they set a huge goal to speak on every continent and they achieved that goal, ending in Antarctica for a big adventure over Thanksgiving. Their dedication to each other, their individual passions, their big dreams as a couple and their new little one inspire me. I know that they will inspire you as well!
Now days I'm pretty sure that I don't even hit close to as many texts each month as he and I were sending back then and not every message that I send is to him. I've been thinking a lot lately about how much we used to text and how every time his name would pop up on my screen while we were apart, I'd get an instant smile on my face. Our daily routines and our job responsibilities are a little different now than they were then, so we don't have as much time to text anyway, but I can't help but try to remember what we talked about all day long while we were dating.
Remember back to those days when you first started falling for your spouse? Those days when you spent every second you could with the one you love? Somehow, when you fall in love, everything else becomes less important. School and work obligations shift to the background, and the love of your life becomes your everything. When couples choose to continue to prioritize their marriage (long after the initial “high”), then this relationship can become better than ever! A prioritized marriage can be even deeper and sweeter than anything you felt during that “chemical high” you experienced at the beginning of your romance.
Each stage of life looks different and brings unique challenges to every couple. My hope is that you will be inspired by the stories of the women in this series. I hope that their experiences will help you find more ways to make your marriage relationship a priority throughout every stage of your own life. Seana has been a long time reader of A Prioritized Marriage. I always look forward to her comments and insight and usually wake up to an e-mail with a comment from her the mornings when I've scheduled a post. I've loved getting a glimpse into her life and her marriage through the experiences she shares and was really excited when she accepted my invite to participate in this series!
Your kids and time together as a family is important. But without your marriage, you wouldn't have that family. Your marriage is the foundation that your family was built upon and in order to keep it strong, you have to make time to give it your full attention. It's hard with young children to justify spending time away and/or paying for someone to watch your kids. I've heard it said many times though that the investment you make in the time you spend together is a lot less expensive than a divorce and a lot more fun!
No matter what you talk about before you get married, you can't anticipate every situation that life is going to bring your way. It would be ideal if you had a plan for everything going into your marriage, but that just isn't possible. Every stage of life comes with new challenges and although you can plan for a lot of them, the details aren't always in your control. Make a point to discuss things when they come your way.
Make physical intimacy a priority in your marriage and remember that it doesn't always have to be as involved as it sounds. Taking that time to love each other will strengthen your relationship and help you remember your role in each other's lives as husband and wife when you may be knee deep in parenting or other life responsibilities.
Each stage of life looks different and brings unique challenges to every couple. My hope is that you will be inspired by the stories of the women in this series. I hope that their experiences will help you find more ways to make your marriage relationship a priority throughout every stage of your own life.Today's interview is with my friend Elyse. We met through blogging and I've loved getting to know her! She and her husband are high school sweethearts, turned long distance relationship, turned marriage. I loved everything that she shared and know you will too!
Taking the time to learn what makes your spouse feel loved and then intentionally loving them in a way that they understand, but also in the way that comes naturally to you is great! However, there are a few things that I've heard from people who feel that knowing their love languages isn't doing anything for them. If you're one of those people who doesn't feel like they make much of a difference in your marriage, these five tips are for you!
Being a newlywed is exciting. The memory of your wedding is still fresh in your mind, you've most likely just got back from honeymoon, and your married life stretches out ahead of you. While you can definitely coast on the joy and fun of your wedding for a while, the newlywed period is also prime time for strengthening your marriage. If you get into good habits now, your marriage will start off on the right foot and you'll be building in strength from day one. If you're a newlywed, here are some ideas to keep your marriage strong.
Whether you are setting goals for your own personal growth, goals to strengthen your marriage, or goals as a couple to help you get further ahead in life, you can work together as a team to accomplish them. Make your spouse's goals your own and help them succeed in any way possible. You're on this journey through life together and your individual successes are just as much of a success for your partner as the things that you set out to accomplish together.