Every month I set a goal that will help me strengthen my marriage. Then each Monday, I tell you all how I'm doing with my goal and I also set a mini goal for the week that will help me better achieve my overall goal for the month.
I just have to tell you that saying yes to everything is a lot harder than I thought it would be! I have a really hard time not immediately answering with a no and just as hard a time coming up with a genuinely positive response to his requests. I still like the goal, but it's something that I'm going to have to work on for a while before it becomes automatic. I think habit for me is to automatically say no when I can't or don't want to do something as soon as husband asks, so my goal is to make the positive reaction a habit to the point that I don't even have to think about it before I speak.
I won't see Joe very much this week because lawn care season has started and he's working later shifts so that he can aerate in the morning. I've been thinking all week about what I wanted this week's mini goal to be and I decided that I want to be more willing to do the simple things for him. I'm always so quick to moan and groan if he wants his back scratched, when he wants me to grab something for him while I'm up, when he wants me to make him something to eat after he gets home from work (on the days that I haven't made a real dinner), etc. Because this goal has been so hard for me, I'm going to just start small, and see how well I do.
Next month's goal has to do with electronics, and my husband is going to be SO excited about it. I can guarantee this goal is one that he'll make sure I stick to.
What do you have a hard time saying yes to in your marriage?