Monthly Marriage Goal - Disconnecting to Reconnect

Marriage & Relationship Goals

As many of you may have heard, this past weekend was the semi-annual LDS General Conference. There were so many great messages, and a lot of them pertained to marriage and families, I included one of my favorites at the bottom of this post if you'd like to watch it! My major is Family Studies and I'm minoring in Child Development, so a lot of these talks spoke to that side of me and the doctrine taught goes right along with all of the things that I've been learning in my classes over the past year or so, I was loving life!

Sister Mary Wixom, Primary General President, spoke about being a better influence on our children, and during her talk, she touched on something that I felt went along really nicely with this month's goal. The LDS Church News summary of her talk put it this way: 

Disconnect and listen with love, she advised. She cited a recent study showed that when a parent of an 18-month-old was more engaged with his phone than with his child, there was "a dimming of the child's internal light, a lessening of the connection between parent and child." She suggested finding a time each day to "disconnect from technology and reconnect with each other."

I think that the same can be said for marriage, if we are spending too much time our on phones and other technology all of the time, the connection between husband wife will weaken as well. And I liked the suggestion to "find some time each day to disconnect from our technology so that we reconnect with each other."

Report From This Week:

Joe has been working late shifts for the past couple of weeks so that he can aerate in the morning and because we were going out of town, so he wasn't getting home until 10 or 10:30 most nights. This meant that we didn't have much time to spend together, and so there weren't many times that I needed to put away my technology. I did realize this weekend that while we were on a date seeing a show this weekend, as soon as intermission hit, both of us pulled out our phone to check all of our notifications, read Twitter and see what was happening on Facebook. It's a habit that we've got and we need to break it.

Mini Goal:

I'm going to work on exactly what Sister Wixom suggests, disconnecting so that we can reconnect. Joe's work schedule should be normal this week which means that we'll have time to each dinner together and hang out every night. My goal is to forget about my phone and my computer during dinner every night and then find an hour later on in the evening to put down my technology and just hang out together.

What is your goal for the week?