For a lot of couples, as soon as the knot is tied, date night drops down on the list of things to do, and in some cases, stops altogether. I've talked to quite a few couples about why they aren't regularly dating each other, and the majority of answers that I've been given fall into five different categories. I've heard, "every night is date night", "we don't have room in our budget", "both of our schedules are really busy", "we have kids and....", "we never have any good ideas for date night", and many similar variations as reasons for why married couples are not making date night a priority in their lives.
I'm here to tell you that it is possible to make date night a priority no matter what your life looks like at the moment. Joe and I have always done our best to make weekly date nights happen, even when we were in the NICU. Date night has always looked different for us depending on what we have going on in our lives at the time. In the beginning of our marriage, we were lazy with our dates and usually ended up at home watching Netflix while we ate takeout, the same thing that we did every night. When I was in school, date night often consisted of dinner and then going home to watch a movie together while I finished a paper that was due at midnight. Now that we have two little ones, most of our date nights take place at home, during nap time or after they have both gone to bed.
More often than I'd like to admit, a new week starts and I realize that we weren't able to complete our planned date night. So I completely understand where you're coming from when you say that sometimes life gets in the way and date night doesn't happen. This year we've had date night plans squashed by sick kids, one of us being sick, delayed bedtimes, and work emergencies (the joys of being a business owner). It happens, but we do our best to work around it.
We've also had a few opportunities open up for date night when we weren't planning on anything big. Just this past weekend, Joe was supposed to go on an overnight camp out with the scouts so I was planning on cleaning the house and working on a few blog projects. When he called on his way home from work and let me know that the camp out had been cancelled, I was so thrilled that I was literally jumping for joy. I was able to run some errands, Joe and Bensen put our basement back together and after both kids were asleep, Joe and I snuggled up on the couch together to watch a movie. I didn't get any of my own personal projects completed like I had planned, but I didn't care. I got an extra, unexpected date night with my man!
After talking to many couples about their date night habits I found that the majority wish that they could increase the frequency of their dates, but don't have the resources that they need in order to do that. No matter what your stage in life, there will always be something keeping you from spending as much time together as you would like. Make time for date night in your marriage because if you don't, you will begin to drift apart and one day you might wake up to find that you are roommates rather than lovers.
Because I feel so strongly about making marriage a top priority and using date night to help you do that, I have put together an e-book. My goal in writing this book is to help couples take the pressure off of planning date night and start having fun together on a regular basis. I want this book to be a great resource for you and your spouse as you are deciding what you want to do together on your planned evening out each week. Not only am I sharing my best tips and tricks to help you make date night happen on a regular basis and to make the planning less stressful, over 200 date night ideas are also included.
I have worked hard to put together date night ideas that will appeal to newlyweds, new parents, seasoned parents, empty nesters, couples on a tight budget, couples looking to splurge a bit, couples with only an hour or two for date night or couples who have an entire day/weekend/week to spend together. I want to help couples make every moment that they have to spend working on their relationship count! My hope is that the ideas included in this book will help you and your spouse start to think creatively and help you find ways to spice up all of your usual date night activities. Some of the date night ideas are simple, others are a bit more special and a couple of the activities are more extravagant.
The more you and your spouse work to make date night a priority, the more easily ideas for what to do on those dates will come to you and the more of a habit date night will become. Date night will no longer be something that you do each week because you know it's important for your marriage. Date night will become something that you both look forward to with excitement each week, whether you have a set plan or not. Make your marriage more of a priority by making date night a priority! No matter what your life stage looks like, you and your spouse won't ever regret setting aside that time to focus on each other.