Make Movie Dates More Meaningful for Your Marriage

I love movie night as much as the next person, especially for date night. Curling up on the couch together with your favorite take out, movie snacks and a good movie can be a relaxing date night! They always say that your first date should never be to a movie because it doesn't provide the best environment for getting to know each other. Because of the limited opportunity for deep connection, it makes sense to me to say that even after you're married, you should avoid making every date night a movie night. That being said, when you do choose to watch a movie together or pick that for your date night activity, I have a few ideas for how you can make those dates benefit your marriage relationship a little bit more.

Make movie date nights more meaningful for your relationship

Make a movie treat together

Whether you're watching a movie at home, going to the drive-in or sneaking your own snacks into the theater, making something together before the show can be a lot of fun! Maybe you have a favorite popcorn recipe (we love peanut butter popcorn with mini peanut butter cups added in) or maybe you prefer a sweet and salty snack mix, a frozen treat, nachos, etc. Don't just swing by the store and pick something up that's already made and conveniently packaged. Plan for extra time before you start your movie and put your snack together while you enjoy a little quality conversation and bonding time.

Create a change of scenery

If you always curl up in your bed together to watch Netflix, sit on the couch in another room to watch your movie instead. You may choose to watch your movie at a different theater than normal or try the drive-in. For some fun at home, bring your mattress out in front of the TV, enjoy your show together and then have a little sleepover in that same room. It could be fun to blow up an air mattress and take your laptop to the backyard to watch your show after it gets dark. You could also pile a bunch of pillow and blankets into the back of a truck and find a secluded place in the mountains or a nearby field to watch the movie!

Watch one of your favorites

This could mean watching a movie that you've both seen and know that you love but it could also mean watching each others' favorite movies. I had never seen Joe's favorite movie until a few years into our marriage and I still remember the night that we finally stopped saying, "We should watch it sometime" and actually pulled it out and watched it. He pointed out all of his favorite parts and loved being able to reference it in the future and have me know what he was talking about. We also have a couple of favorite shows that we watch together as a couple. We've seen them all at least twice and love pointing out things that we'd never noticed before or being able to talk about the movie without feeling like we're missing anything.

Watch the special features and deleted scenes

This idea came to me a couple of weeks ago when one of my Facebook memories was a video of my friends and I singing along to the karaoke videos that are part of the special features on The Wedding Singer. You obviously can't do this if you get your movie from Redbox or are in a theater, but there are plenty of other opportunities to pull out the special features. After you've finished the show, see what that extra disc has to offer. Some might have karaoke videos you can have fun with or games you can play. All movies will most likely have deleted scenes that you can watch and discuss whether or not you think they should have been included or if it was good that they were cut.

Go to dinner first or enjoy dessert afterward

Make your date night about more than the movie! Get take out and have a picnic at a local park, in your backyard or on the floor of your living room before you start the show. After the show is over, go out for ice cream or to your one of your favorite restaurants just to eat dessert. This will give you a chance to talk and connect in addition to enjoying the movie together.