Alternate titles for this post include: The Not so Glamorous Sides of Pregnancy, Realities of the Last Six Months of Our Lives, and The Amazingly Awful Truths of my Pregnancy. Being pregnant is wonderful and not all at the same time. There are so many things that I wish I could do, but I can't, and as much as I hate to use our growing baby as an excuse, he has been a perfectly legitimate one in quite a few situations. Some days it takes everything I have to make it through work and school and other days I feel like I can take on the world. One thing I've learned during this pregnancy is that I really can't do everything, and I have to decide what I'm willing to sacrifice in order to give my full attention to others.
Always have dinner ready for your husband when he gets home.
I was pro at this the first six months of my pregnancy. I kept our freezer stocked with corn dogs, pizza, frozen Chinese and pasta entrees and ice cream. Most nights I had great intentions and would promise Joe that he would find a homemade meal waiting for him when he got home, but after a long day of work and school, taking a nap always sounded more appealing than standing around the kitchen making food that I wouldn't even eat because all I wanted was a bowl of cereal. Joe's expectations weren't too high, but I probably shouldn't have kept promising something that I knew I wouldn't be able to follow through on.
Now that I'm not sick anymore, I'm better about creating and sticking to a meal plan and we've had a home cooked meal 90% of the time this month. I'm trying to get back into the habit of making dinner not only so Joe has something to eat and leftovers to take for lunch the next day but because it will save us money and I know that it's a lot healthier than eating whatever we have on hand or what we can find at the nearest fast food place.
^^ One of our homemade meals this month. Recipe found here^^
Let your husband stay naive about how his life is going to change.
Most of the things I talk to Joe about when we discuss the new addition coming to our home in May are exciting and fun! I can't wait to watch this little boy grow up (not too fast though) and follow in his daddy's footsteps, I'm excited to watch a boy and his puppy become the best of friends and do everything together, and I can only imagine the immense joy that this child will bring to our lives. At the same time, I don't want Joe to go into shock over some of the things that having a baby entails, so I'm sure to prepare him for the not so happily ever realities that await him by sharing other people's stories, random facts that I find and important information from the books that I've been reading. There's no need to leave him in the dark about these things, right? He's going to find out sooner or later, it might as well be now so that he has time to prepare.
Keep your house clean at all times.
Our house was extremely clean, right after we paid someone to clean it for us. Lucky for me, we were in the middle of home renovations for the first couple of months of my pregnancy so I had multiple excuses for why the house was a disaster and why it was pointless for me to even attempt to clean it. And then post construction dust gave me a really great reason to hire someone to clean it for me. In most normal circumstances, I would probably have kept it a little bit tidier than I did, but we'll just pretend that wouldn't have been the case so that I don't feel bad about our living space looking like it was on its way to an episode of Hoarders.
What I slacked off on things then, I've been making up for now! Joe and I have had multiple cleaning parties/date nights over the past couple of months and I'm always excited and eager to unpack more boxes and get another section of our house organized and put together. Maybe pregnant women go through nesting at the end of their pregnancy because they are too tired and sick to be even the slightest bit productive at the beginning and need to make up for lost time.
^^ The two finished rooms in our house that I try to keep clean and clutter free if possible ^^
Don't ever feel tempted to give into your cravings.
My only real cravings this pregnancy have been breakfast food related. I will never turn down pancakes, waffles, French toast, smoothies or a bowl of cereal. Unfortunately for Joe, I have eaten quite a few boxes of cereal over the past five or six months, most of which have been some type of Cheerio, (expensive and apparently smell like urine) and I put waffles, French toast or pancakes on our meal plan at least once a week (they give him heartburn). But a pregnant woman's got to have what a pregnant woman's got to have and he does benefit when my cravings center around donuts, so I don't feel too bad. I've also never made him run out and get something totally random in the middle of the night, or really at all, so I'm not worried about it at all.
Never let your husband know just how sick you're feeling.
I've heard that some people like to keep a level of privacy in their marriage and one of the ways they do that is by never letting their spouse see them truly sick. I never created a mess for Joe or myself to clean up, but I certainly didn't go out of my way to avoid him seeing that truly ugly side of me either. If he wanted to go to another area of the house, he could go to another area of the house, but I was going to end up in whichever bathroom was closest and most convenient and if that meant having to deal with Joe turning up the TV while saying, "Didn't you already do that today wife?" to me every night, so be it. With morning sickness, the stomach flu and a nasty cold/cough/sinus infection, Joe has truly seen me at my worst during this pregnancy, but through it all, he still loves me and finds me attractive and I love him for that!
What are some ways that you have really excelled in your role as a wife while you've been pregnant?