You know the rhyme - first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage. Sure, that may not be the exact path we all take, but I think many of us newlyweds can relate to the baby fever that tends to set in after the first little bit of marriage, whether you actually want a child yet or not. I think as human beings, we are just naturally always looking ahead to the next big thing in life, whether it be the next vacation, the next promotion, or the next family milestone. If you are anything like me, you tend to find yourself doing this even more-so during the holidays.
As a kid, it seemed like the holidays were a magical time when anything could happen. Can you remember back to some of your own Christmases past? I mean like really far back. Back when you had a paper-chain countdown going until Christmas day, when 30-seconds on Santa's lap could pretty much solve world hunger, and when you were convinced that waking up at 5:00 a.m. on Christmas morning and having to wait until until your parents awoke was surely some form of cruel and unusual punishment.
I know that for my husband and me personally, we always talk about how fun "abc" will be once we have a child for the holidays, or how magical it will be when we can watch "xyz" through our child's eyes. It's not that we don't get excited about the holiday season ourselves, but I just think that as adults we can sometimes let the stress and pressure of our everyday lives crowd our heads and our hears so much that we don't leave ourselves much room for enjoying the magic of the season. But it really got me thinking the other day...why can't we make it just as magical for ourselves as adults? Why can't we just enjoy the holiday season as a twosome and really learn to cherish this time as a couple?
So today I thought it would be fun to share a few tips I came up with for really celebrating and enjoying the holidays as a terrific twosome!
1 | Start your family traditions now!
Just because you don't have a million and two kids to share them with yet, you can still start family traditions now as a twosome! Our first year of marriage, my husband and I spent the entire day after Thanksgiving in our pjs, watching multiple Christmas movies, ordering in super unhealthy food, and decking out our home for Christmas. We had so much fun that we did it the next year as well, and plan to make it a family tradition for years to come!
2 | Splurge on beautiful holiday decor.
I don't know about you, but one of my favorite parts of the holiday season is decorating our home in a winter wonderland. Seriously - it looks like Christmas threw up all over our family room. The first year I started buying decor for our home, I found myself straying away from beautiful pieces that I loved but assumed were way too fragile to have in our home. I soon realized however, that I was being absolutely silly - NOW is the time for us to purchase beautiful decor like that that may not be as "child-friendly" since we don't have little ankle-biters running around yet. Okay, we do have a dog. And she destroys her fair share of household items, but we'll move on...
3 | Host an "adult" holiday party.
Have you hosted a big party yet as a couple? If not, let this holiday season be your debut! Hit up Pinterest, create a menu, organize some fun party games, and invite your friends over for your very own Christmas or New Years celebration!
4 | Have a lazy Christmas morning.
Without little tiny hands shaking you awake at 6:00 a.m., you have the luxury to spend your Christmas morning however you want! So sleep in, or wake up early and turn on a Christmas movie, or just spend the morning in a massive cuddle-sesh with your S/O! Do whatever feels exciting and relaxing to you as a couple.
5 | Allow yourself to act like a kid.
Holidays are not the time for counting calories or stressing over the "perfect" holiday outfit. Instead,Êmake (and decorate) that second batch of Christmas cookies, splurge on a second helping of your favorite dish, and spend your Christmas Eve searching for the perfect holiday movie rather than the perfect dress. And remember, you're never too old for a sledding hill, an ice rink, or a snowball fight. So let your inner child run free!
And as a final thought, I wanted to share with you a personal goal of mine. One of the things I've really been working on lately is to just let myself live in the moment. I often have so much on my mind and am trying to think and plan so much for the future that I fail to actually live in the here and now. Have you ever just stopped what you were doing and taken a moment to actually take stock of your surroundings? To stop and think about how luck you are to have what you do have? Well, I'm trying to do a lot more of that lately. To stop worrying so much about the future, and to enjoy the season of life I'm in right now.
So the next time you feel like you're just waiting around for "the next great thing," whether it be the house, the job, the spouse, or the baby - take a moment to appreciate where you are today. Remember that you will never have this exact moment back, and appreciate the phase you're in right now. I know firsthand that doing that is certainly easier said than done, but hopefully some of these tips will help to make enjoying and living in the moment during the holidays a little bit easier!
So tell me- what's something special you do to make the holiday's magical? I'd love for you to share any family traditions or special plans you have for this holiday in the comments below!