This post is part of a collaboration with Zermatt Resort. All opinions are my own.
Shortly before Bensen was born, I overheard a conversation at work where one coworker was telling the other that he didn't think parents should leave their young children with someone overnight until the child is at least 18 months old. I was intrigued and wanted to know more because the advice giver have a decent number of children and I figure he probably has good reasoning behind his parenting opinions. At the time, I was also considering planning a trip to Mexico right after Bensen turns one to celebrate our five year anniversary and my graduation and I wanted to know why that might not be the best plan.
When I asked my coworker about his reasoning behind that rule he said something similar to, "I don't think it's fair to leave your baby with someone else before they are sleeping through the night and until they are done breastfeeding. In my experience 18 months is a good age to assume both of those criteria are met." It wasn't something I'd really thought about before, but it did make a lot of sense and I reconsidered the timeline of our Mexico trip.
I'll confess, we have left our baby for one night when he was six weeks old, but only because my mom kept offering to take him so we could get some decent sleep at least once, he was only waking up once or twice a night at that point, and it was our anniversary. Now that Bensen is consistently sleeping through the night and completely weaned, we are eagerly planning our first real getaway! Whether your little one is still really young or has already celebrated a birthday or two, I hope these tips will help you in planning your first getaway after becoming parents!
Find Someone to Stay With Your Baby
This is the most important step in my opinion. Knowing that there is someone back at home caring for your little love will help you enjoy your time alone as a couple. Make sure whoever you pick is someone that you trust completely so you are able to worry a little bit less during your time away. We're lucky to live near a lot of family and all of them are very willing and eager to hang out with our little mister. I've asked my mom to watch him for this trip because he spends a lot of time at her house while I'm at work and I know that he'll feel comfortable there and hopefully stick to his good sleep routine. If you don't have family that lives close, consider planning a trip to where they live and escape for a night or two while your baby stays with them or see if they're willing to travel your direction and stay while you escape. Another option would be to consider trading with friends that you trust; you offer to watch their kids for a couple of nights if they'll watch yours for a couple of nights in return.
Book Your Stay Somewhere Romantic
We don't go on a lot of big trips together, so when we plan our weekends away, we splurge a little on our accommodations. We love to search for B&B's with themed suites or that boast being a great place for romantic getaways. Setting and atmosphere makes all the difference! For this getaway, we'll be staying at Zermatt Resort in Midway Utah. The resort itself is gorgeous, it is surrounded by stunning mountain views and their goal is to create an atmosphere for creating meaningful, lasting memories. As soon as we booked our getaway destination, I started getting really excited to spend time together working on our relationship!
Make Dinner and Activity Reservations
I like to think of our getaways as mini, post marriage honeymoons. They aren't very long, but we try to make the most of them and plan fun outings and dinner dates while we're gone. Think of things that you don't get to do now that you have a baby in your life and plan those, even if you don't think they're very glamorous. Go to the movie theater to watch that new release you've been dying to see, make reservations at a romantic sit down restaurant and plan to enjoy a leisurely meal together, do something recreational or outdoors that isn't as convenient to do with your child. We don't have too many plans set in stone for our weekend yet, but we plan on working on those soon. I know for sure that we need to eat at Z's Steak and Chop Haus and I'd love to at least tour The Zermatt Crater. My first priority though is to ride the Zermatt Carousel! I know that it will be nice to be able to relax without worrying about the needs of that little guy that we love so much so we may spend some time sleeping and watching movies in our room. We're pretty low key sometimes.
Count Down the Days Together
The minute our reservations were made, I sent Joe a text asking him if he wanted to spend a romantic weekend in Midway with me this fall. The next thing I did was add it to my Google calendar and send him an invite so that it will be on his calendar when he writes his schedule for that week and he won't forget to take time off. I may or may not be counting down the number of weeks until our getaway and I'll probably start counting down the days when it gets closer. I sure love my Bensen boy, but for I know that this time away is important for the health of our marriage!
Where did you go for your first getaway from the kids? Are you planning one currently? I'd love to hear about it!