Adjusting

Everyone says that marriage is a big adjustment but I didn't really feel like it was. I moved out of my parent's house, I moved in with a guy, we shared everything, we took on a whole new set of adult responsibilities, and we created a new family unit together. You'd think that would take some getting used to, but I remember looking back a few months into our marriage and thinking how easy the change had been for me. Getting married was a smooth transition for us and I think that in some ways, I figured parenthood would be too.

Six weeks ago we started one of our biggest adjustments yet and we've been adjusting ever since. We've adjusted our lives, our schedules and our expectations and I feel like each day we have to adjust even more. Just when we think we've got it figured out, that baby goes and changes his routines on us. Life with a baby is a lot of fun and a lot more entertaining than it was without, but it's also a lot more time consuming and everything, even the things that don't directly involve the baby, take a lot longer to do because his needs take priority and his timing isn't always convenient

Adjusting has been, well... an adjustment, but it hasn't been all bad. Joe and I both shifted our work schedules so that Bensen can be home with one of us as much as possible and so that we aren't tiring Grandma Daycare out. I leave before Joe wakes up every morning, he doesn't get home until right before bedtime and we no longer have a day off together during the week like we used to. Some days it feels like we never get to see each other, but the weekends make it all worth it! (Well, we haven't experienced one yet, but I'm pretty sure they will.) On my days off, Joe works earlier shifts and is home earlier than he's ever been before so we have a set date night every week and our nights won't start at 8 pm like they always have in the past. On Joe's day off, he's home when I get home and can have dinner ready to go so that I don't have to spend an hour of my night getting it prepared and on the table. There are four days a week when we get to see each other for a significantly longer time than we ever have before and that more than makes up for the three days a week when we hardly get to see each other at all. I will take all of the quality time with Joe that I can get, even if that means a lot of Netflix and lounging around at the moment.

I love my little family and even though this adjustment hasn't been as easy as I'd hoped it would be, I wouldn't trade it for the world!